Does God Care Whom I Marry?

Does God Care Whom I Marry?

Does God Care Whom I Marry? Yes! God cares very much exactly whom you marry! In my experience, he allowed my guardian angel, Michelle, to physically appear to me daily for about 3 years. God specifically did this because He wanted to distract me with Michelle’s beauty to prevent me from getting too interested in other women in the same apartment complex! God wanted me to remain single, so He encouraged Michelle to allow me to see her; however, when I asked Michelle on a date, she politely refused! This was in the period 1980-1983.

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In 1987 God gave me an extremely vivid daydream of my future wife as she would later appear in heaven! At that time, I thought of this daydream as weird and didn’t think much about it. I never met my future wife until 2004, three days after I gave up searching for a wife on my own! I prayed and said, “I give up! If you want me to have a wife, you find her!”

God Wants To Be Your MatchMaker!

So, I know from personal experience that God is hoping to form a close enough relationship with you so that you will choose to let Him be your “matchmaker”! And when you hear the Holy Spirit tell you…” this is the one,” then the rest is easy! Your life after marriage will not be perfect, but you can be confident that you made the right choice and should not get divorced for any reason because God has chosen your partner and still has much to teach you and your partner!

When God created Eve, He obviously designed her very precisely to please Adam! Her height, shape, and everything about Eve was designed specifically for Adam!

What Happened In The Beginning?

When Eve first chose to sin, she experienced fear for the first time! And what caused that fear? It was her mistrust of God’s Word and His Character! And this is also our problem when we think that God has no interest in whom we marry!

What Is The Real Solution?

The Real Solution is to learn to trust both the Word of God, the Bible, and God’s character of love! (See also The Gospel, Melchizedek Deep Dive!, Melchizedek Deeper Dive!)

"It was to redeem us that Jesus lived and suffered and died. He became “a Man of Sorrows,” that we might be made partakers of everlasting joy. God permitted His beloved Son, full of grace and truth, to come from a world of indescribable glory, to a world marred and blighted with sin, darkened with the shadow of death and the curse. He permitted Him to leave the bosom of His love, the adoration of the angels, to suffer shame, insult, humiliation, hatred, and death. “The chastisement of our peace was upon Him; and with His stripes we are healed.” Isaiah 53:5. Behold Him in the wilderness, in Gethsemane, upon the cross! The spotless Son of God took upon Himself the burden of sin. He who had been one with God, felt in His soul the awful separation that sin makes between God and man. This wrung from His lips the anguished cry, “My God, My God, why hast Thou forsaken Me?” Matthew 27:46. It was the burden of sin, the sense of its terrible enormity, of its separation of the soul from God—it was this that broke the heart of the Son of God. 

But this great sacrifice was not made in order to create in the Father's heart a love for man, not to make Him willing to save. No, no! “God so loved the world, that He gave His only-begotten Son.” John 3:16. The Father loves us, not because of the great propitiation, but He provided the propitiation because He loves us. Christ was the medium through which He could pour out His infinite love upon a fallen world. “God was in Christ, reconciling the world unto Himself.” 2 Corinthians 5:19. God suffered with His Son. In the agony of Gethsemane, the death of Calvary, the heart of Infinite Love paid the price of our redemption. 

Jesus said, “Therefore doth My Father love Me, because I lay down My life, that I might take it again.” John 10:17. That is, “My Father has so loved you that He even loves Me more for giving My life to redeem you. In becoming your Substitute and Surety, by surrendering My life, by taking your liabilities, your transgressions, I am endeared to My Father; for by My sacrifice, God can be just, and yet the Justifier of him who believeth in Jesus.” 

None but the Son of God could accomplish our redemption; for only He who was in the bosom of the Father could declare Him. Only He who knew the height and depth of the love of God could make it manifest. Nothing less than the infinite sacrifice made by Christ in behalf of fallen man could express the Father's love to lost humanity. 

“God so loved the world, that He gave His only-begotten Son.” He gave Him not only to live among men, to bear their sins, and die their sacrifice. He gave Him to the fallen race. Christ was to identify Himself with the interests and needs of humanity. He who was one with God has linked Himself with the children of men by ties that are never to be broken. Jesus is “not ashamed to call them brethren” (Hebrews 2:11); He is our Sacrifice, our Advocate, our Brother, bearing our human form before the Father's throne, and through eternal ages one with the race He has redeemed—the Son of man. And all this that man might be uplifted from the ruin and degradation of sin that he might reflect the love of God and share the joy of holiness. 

The price paid for our redemption, the infinite sacrifice of our heavenly Father in giving His Son to die for us, should give us exalted conceptions of what we may become through Christ. As the inspired apostle John beheld the height, the depth, the breadth of the Father's love toward the perishing race, he was filled with adoration and reverence; and, failing to find suitable language in which to express the greatness and tenderness of this love, he called upon the world to behold it. “Behold, what manner of love the Father hath bestowed upon us, that we should be called the sons of God.” 1 John 3:1. What a value this places upon man! Through transgression the sons of man become subjects of Satan. Through faith in the atoning sacrifice of Christ the sons of Adam may become the sons of God. By assuming human nature, Christ elevates humanity. Fallen men are placed where, through connection with Christ, they may indeed become worthy of the name “sons of God.” 

Such love is without a parallel. Children of the heavenly King! Precious promise! Theme for the most profound meditation! The matchless love of God for a world that did not love Him! The thought has a subduing power upon the soul and brings the mind into captivity to the will of God. The more we study the divine character in the light of the cross, the more we see mercy, tenderness, and forgiveness blended with equity and justice, and the more clearly we discern innumerable evidences of a love that is infinite and a tender pity surpassing a mother's yearning sympathy for her wayward child."

Steps To Christ, most of Chapter 1, by Ellen White

Does God care whom I marry? Yes, you bet He does! And He cares about all of your life’s other details, too! The only question left is, “How much do you trust Him?”

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